We had known each other for only a few weeks when he came with me to get some boxes of cooking equipment I had put in storage while I was having my kitchen refurbished.
Maybe when it comes to marriage, once really should be enough? For me, that question was answered very soon after meeting Mark. I remember, at the time, reading the increasingly lurid Press reports about the McCartneys and wondering whether it was too much to ask for myself whether, having had one happy marriage, it was ever possible to repeat the experience? In fact, their marriage was unravelling at around the same time I met Mark, the man who was to become my second husband. Love, love me do: Mrs Nicholson's first husband, journalist John Merritt, died aged 35 in 1992, 11 years after they got married Which is why, Nancy, Linda has continued to cast such a long shadow over Macca’s subsequent love life.Īny woman would struggle under that sort of pressure, and I’ve no doubt Linda’s legacy played a large part in the demise of Paul’s short-lived marriage to Heather, who was, it seemed, so desperate to prove herself the ‘new’ Linda, so eager to show she could fill her shoes that the union between herself and Paul never stood a chance. My point is that when someone - anyone - dies before their time, they cast a long shadow on the loved ones they leave behind, but doubly so when that person has been one half of a famously happy, loving marriage.
Yet in the main, he is forever fixed in my mind as gloriously young, brilliant and handsome. If I force myself, I can just about remember that after his death I discovered about 20 unpaid parking tickets - which I then very crossly had to pay. He was awful at DIY and never ever tidied up after himself or took responsibility for bills.
I know logically that when he was alive - wonderful as he was - he was far from perfect. The fact of the matter is that when a previous marriage has ended in a premature and tragic death, the surviving spouse has not only been battered by grief, but has also never had the chance to fall out of love with their first partner.Įven worse, from the point of view of subsequent spouses, the deceased partner acquires more and more angelic status with the passing of time. Because, as I expect you have already realised, marrying a widower - even one as famous, talented and universally adored as Sir Paul - is not for the faint-hearted. She writes about the trials of finally learning to let go and the value of being someone who takes on the task of being partner to someone who has been widowed.įirst of all, let me wish you all the luck and congratulations due to any bride - and so much more besides. In this moving open letter, Lindsay Nicholson gives some kind words of advice to Nancy Shevell using her own, heartbreaking experience of losing a loved one.
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